We all talk to ourselves. Some of us talk to ourself more so than others 😀 Some of us like to talk to ourselves out loud 😀 which sometimes helps because we can get confused by our own thoughts. Hearing them out loud helps us listen to ourselves better
When we are young, the voice inside our head is often words we have heard from our mother or father or some other relative that we love and endear. As we grow older those voices inside start to include words from our teachers, words from our priest or pastor, and words from our friends.
And as we continue to grow and become readers of literature the voices of favorite characters and the voices of influential authors of both fiction and non-fiction enter into the conversations we begin to have with ourselves.
I must say at this point I am making a great assumption that we all have been and always will be in conversation with ourselves. I know that is not true. It is my hope is that it is true, because of a point I am going to make towards the end of this post 😀
Being alone allows a person time to sort through your thoughts. I know so many people, particularly younger people who are always or frequently seeking distraction, entertainment, or some other amusement to occupy their mind’s time. I don’t get the expression “I’m bored.” I do, but I don’t. How can a person not look at a space of time, no matter how short or long, and not think, awesome! I can think about something that just happened that was good, or bad, (and nothing is truly “good” or “bad,” we just say so) or think about something in my future that I want to make happen.
That’s it; I know I am constantly at odds with whatever reality other people create. What is true is not what I think or what others think. The truth is something that exists between us. What we think are the words we believe to be true. What words each person believes to be true are slightly different than the next person. That is why we miscommunicate. We don’t always agree on the meaning of words we speak, or our true thoughts we cannot give the proper words because we haven’t taken the time to think about how to express what we truly feel, what we truly think, what we truly believe.
Earlier I was talking about talking out loud to yourself to help sort out your thoughts. Writing them down is also a good thing to do. Seeing your own thoughts in writing can be very powerful in helping you “find” who you are. And who we are, I hope, our essence, always remains the same but that we make constant little adjustments because the world is always changing.
As we get through adolescence and emerge into adulthood we have an s-load of voices in our head; hopefully now most of them are the ones we own for ourselves, ones we have filtered through the many voices we have heard in the past and want those words to be a part of who we are. Some of the voices are words we have deconstructed from other voices and reassembled, mixing and matching words that make sense to us in their own way and we own those words as we go out into the world seeking our own individual happiness and peace.
Inside of all of us is the voice of our soul. It always knows what’s best for us. We have the voice of our heart, the voice of our pragmatic intellect; we have the voice of our prejudices and biases. We have voices we speak in anger, sadness, and joy. It can all become very confusing at times. When we speak to ourselves it is sometimes helpful to identify to yourself what voice is speaking to you, what voice you are listening to. It will help clarify and put into perspective that moment you are in and hopefully bring a calmness and peace with whatever your thoughts are at that time.
We are all human. We each are all essentially of the same essence. That is the soul in each of us. What makes us all seem so different from each other are the words we believe and the voices we listen to in our heads. What we believe determines how we act. If we believe there are inherent differences between us, we will conflict. If we believe there are inherent similarities between us, we will cooperate with each other.
This is a perfect time to get political, but I will not. Because I believed that to be true doesn’t mean it was 😀
To hope, to love, to dream, to want the best for ourselves, to want the best for others, I believe is what we all want. I am obviously oblivious to the reality of life 😀 I don’t care; I believe, and I will continue to believe that to be true. Which is a good thing and a bad thing. Other people do the exact same thing. They believe in words and speak in voices that directly conflict with the reality around them.
War is not natural. Many conditions and situations in this world are not natural, they are man-made.
Love, dreams, hope for the future is natural 😀 That is in our soul; that is in all of us.
We have to find the voice of our soul and let it guide us. We have to follow and listen to the other pragmatic words and voices inside our head too, because stuff just has to get done sometimes. You don’t need your soul to get the laundry done, or kitchen cleaned 😀
We do need to listen to the voices that lead us to love, that lead us to peace, that lead us to care and support each other. We have to find time to hear those voices.