Love is free by nature.
Love is a force of nature. However much we may want to, we can not command Love to be ours, demand it in our life, or hide from Love, any more than we can command the weather to be as we want. We may have some limited ability to change the weather, but we do it at the risk of upsetting a natural balance we don’t fully understand. We can begin a seduction or begin a courtship, but the result is more likely to be an infatuation, or two lives dancing together, and never really coming close to the idea of Love.
Love is bigger than any one person or all of us combined. You can allow Love to enter into your life, but you cannot tell Love how, when, and where Love may expresses itself after that. You can choose to surrender to Love, or not, but in the end Love strikes like lightening, unpredictable and sometimes irrational. You can even find yourself loving people you don’t even really like at all. Love does not come with conditions, stipulations, addendums, or codes. Like the sun, love radiates independently of our fears and desires.
Love is free. You cannot make someone Love you, nor can you prevent it. Love cannot be legislated, for or against itself. Love is not a substance or a commodity. Love has no territory, no borders, no quantifiable mass or energy output.
One can buy sex partners and even marriage partners. Marriage is a matter for the law, for rules and courts and property rights. In the past the marriage price, or dowry, and in the present alimony and the pre-nuptial agreements, make it clear that marriage is all about contracts. But as we all know, marriages, whether arranged or not, may have little to do with Love.
One can buy loyalty, companionship, attention, perhaps even compassion, but Love itself cannot be bought. It comes, or not, by Grace, of its own will and in its own timing, subject to no human’s planning.
Love cannot be turned on as a reward. It cannot be turned off as a punishment. Love can never be present if it doesn’t come freely from the heart.
This doesn’t mean that Love allows destructive and abusive behaviors to go unchecked. Love speaks out for justice and protests when harm is being done. Love points out the consequences of hurting oneself or others. Love allows room for anger, grief, or pain to be expressed and released. But Love does not threaten to withhold itself if it doesn’t get what it wants.
Love cares what becomes of you because Love knows that we are all interconnected. Love is inherently compassionate and empathic. Love knows that you are also it. This is the true nature of love and love itself can not be manipulated or restrained. Love honors the uniqueness of each soul. Love is.