Talking to Yourself

This is a repost from something I orginally wrote about two years ago. Ive revised the original, Love and a New Year several times, and ive reposted it 3 or 4 times. I often reread the orignal post every several weeks because it’s one of my favorites; I was very inspired when I wrote it ๐Ÿ™‚

The following is another revision, hopefully better stated than any previous versions ๐Ÿ™‚ I think tjere are some very important ideas here

๐Ÿ˜€ Here we go…

We all talk to ourselves. Some of us talk to ourself more so than others ๐Ÿ˜€ Some of us like to talk to ourselves out loud ๐Ÿ˜€ which sometimes helps because we can get confused by our own thoughts. Hearing them out loud helps us listen to ourselves better. Never be self-conscious about the need to talk something out to yourself ๐Ÿ™‚

When we are very young, the voice inside our head is often words we have heard from our mother or father or some other relative that we love and endear. As we grow older those voices inside start to include words from our teachers, words from our priest or pastor, and words from our friends. The choices we make in who we select as friends and peers will always have life altering consequences

And as we continue to grow and become readers of literature the voices of favorite characters and the voices of influential authors of both fiction and non-fiction enter into the conversations we begin to have with ourselves. We also allow voices from the media, old-new-social, media to echo between our ears

I must say at this point I am making a great assumption that we all have been and always will be in conversation with ourselves, or that we are aware of these intra-personal conversations and how extremely important tney are. I know that is not true. It is my hope is that it is true, because of a point I am going to make towards the end of this post ๐Ÿ˜€

Being alone allows a person time to sort through your thoughts in a calmness snd silence. (Although, ironically, some people find being alone as an anxiety provoking situatiom) (We all have our own reality) ๐Ÿ™‚ I know many people, particularly younger people, who are always or frequently seeking distraction, entertainment, or some other amusement to occupy their mind’s time. I donโ€™t get the expression โ€œIโ€™m bored.โ€ I do, but I donโ€™t. I do know that some people are uncomfortable with their own thoughts, or even more frightful, they are void of their own original ideas, and being alone is uncomfortable to them. But I truly believe most people, given the opportunity, would totally embrace alone time

I know my reality of what I believe about the world and other people is frequently at odds with whatever reality other people create in their own mind. What is true is not what I think or what others think. The truth is something that exists between us. What we think are the words we believe to be true. What words each person believes to be true are slightly different than the next person. That is why we miscommunicate. We donโ€™t always agree on the meaning of words we speak, or our true thoughts we cannot give the proper words because we havenโ€™t taken the time to think about how to express what we truly feel, what we truly think, what we truly believe.

Earlier I was speaking about how we talk out loud to ourself to help sort out our thoughts, writing down your thoughts is also a good thing to do. Seeing your own thoughts in writing can be very powerful in helping you โ€œfindโ€ who you are. And who we are, I hope, our essence, always remains the same but that we make constant little adjustments because the world is always changing, and we, ideally, change a little with it

As we get through adolescence and emerge into adulthood we have an s-load of voices in our head; hopefully now most of the words in our head are the ones we own for ourselves, words we have filtered through the many voices we have heard in the past and want those words to be a part of who we are now and moving forward in our life. Some of the voices are words we have deconstructed from other voices and reassembled, mixing and matching words that make sense to us in their own way and we own those words as we go out into the world seeking our own individual happiness and peace.

Inside of all of us is the voice of our soul. The voice of our soul always knows whatโ€™s best for us. We have the voice of our heart, the voice of our pragmatic intellect; we have the voice of our prejudices and biases. We have voices we speak in anger, sadness, and joy. It can all become very confusing at times. When we speak to ourselves it is sometimes helpful to identify to yourself what voice is speaking to you, what voice you are listening to. It will help clarify and put into perspective that moment you are in and hopefully bring a calmness and peace with whatever your thoughts are at that time.

We are all human. We each are all essentially of the same essence. That is the soul in each of us. What makes us all seem so different from each other are the words we believe and the voices we listen to in our heads. What we believe determines how we act. If we believe there are inherent differences between us, we will conflict. If we believe there are inherent similarities between us, we will cooperate with each other.

Apparently, most politicians are not human! ๐Ÿ˜€

To hope, to love, to dream, to want the best for ourselves, to want the best for others, I believe is what we all want. I am obviously oblivious to the reality of life ๐Ÿ˜€ I donโ€™t care; I believe, and I will continue to believe that to be true. Which is a good and a bad thing ๐Ÿ™‚ We all have our each individual perspective on reality; and sometimes people believe in words and speak in voices that directly conflict with the reality around them.

War and violence are not natural or “human”, and they all begin with the voices people hear in their head. Many conditions and situations in this world that cause pain, suffering, and death are not human, but they are man-made.


Words, thoughts, and actions that pursue Love, our dreams, our hope for the future are natural ๐Ÿ˜€ That is in our soul; that is in all of us.

We have to find the voice of our soul and let it guide us. We have to follow and listen to the other pragmatic words and voices inside our head too, because stuff just has to get done sometimes. You donโ€™t need your soul to get the laundry done, or kitchen cleaned ๐Ÿ˜€

We do need to listen to the voices that lead us to love, that lead us to peace, that lead us to care and support each other. We have to find time to hear those voices.

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2 Responses to Talking to Yourself

  1. Britney says:

    I love reading this blog post. It really got me to think and helped me to answer unanswered questions.

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